How we judge

Hello all,this time i wanna talk about how people judge others by seeing them for the first time or juding someone by his or her looks.

People who know me know i have long hair and wear band shirts and alot of black.
when i walk outside sometimes i see people look especially younger people that are around the age of 16 and older,and i can see them think gothic.
to clear things out i'm NOT a gothic.

I have to admit even I do it,and yes everyone else does it maybe not on purpose but it happens.

But why we judge others.

-The pragmatic reason.
sometimes we judge cause we can avoid a penalty or get rewared like to be in a populair group,almost everyone wanna take part of the group that has the highest regard.
If the standard is being thin then it's possible that they pick on people that are fat.
That's how they confirm they take part of the superior group.
But people who do this alot are mostly insecure,they are in great need for self-affirmation.

-The ego-defense reason.
People cherish prejudices against other people because they are in struggle with themselves.
That's why they are disturbed by other peoples characteristics or problems,and they roll off the their anoyings off to others.

-The value handling.
Some people have prejudices against other people to protect things that they consider as important,an example is a religious person that think that people from a other religion don't have the right religion and their religion is the only one.

-Knowledge handling.
People have prejudices because it organizes information around the world in a way that is manageable for them. They use stereotypes (think bite-size diagrams) if they meet certain groups of people, then they should not dwell on the many details that characterize that person and they can quickly switch to new information.

-Other reasons why we judge other people.
>They are different from us.
>They do not agree with us.
>We do not like them.
>They hurt us or offended us.
>We feel rejected, accused, or insulted.
>We expect or look for the worst in them.
>We are angry at them.
>We want to hurt them or get them back.


To understand why there are prejudices, it is important that you learn to recognize them.The best way to do that is to recognize that prejudice can take many forms and that all people have occasional prejudices.

Sometimes i notice that i judge other people.
Not every fat person is fat because they eat alot there are alot fat people that are overweight because they have an disease there are several diseases that cause overweight.
Or some people that listen to hardcore (The dutch version) not everyone that listen to that are that bad.
We dont do it on purpose but it happens everyone all the time we can't help it.

So next time when you see someone dressed in black don't think he or she is a goth or when you see someone from a other country dont think he or she is a criminal,cause we mainly judge by appearance and not by the inside of the person.

-How easy it is to judge rightly after one sees what evil comes from judging wrongly!-

tv crap

It's my first blog here and every blog i will end with a quote.


I bet everyday watches tv several times a week or everyday.
when i watch i see all those
so called reality shows and talent shows and shows on what's called here nickelodeon and now called Disney XD.

first to start with the so called reality shows.
first you had MTV and here in holland TMF and Thebox.
What happend to thebox i dont know.but TMF and MTV are hardly even showing any music videos anymore
doesn't stand MTV for MUSIC TELEVISION *correct me if i'm wrong*
and doesnt stand TMF for THE MUSIC FACTORY?
and the only thing what i see on those tv stations is things like..jersey shore,true life,scream queens,pimp my ride,made,life of ryan,my super sweet 16,the hills,16 and pregnant and a whole bunch more where are the music video's? ooh wait they come at night when everybody is asleep

and now "talent" shows
Here we have almost everyday a show on the finding new "talent"
to name a few.
Idols,hollands next top model,top chef,the voice of holland,so you can dance,x factor and well i bet there are even more.
and then someone wins,and then? the first 3 months you hear alot of them they made a so-called hit song what someone else wrote and after that they are forgotten cause there is another "talent" show,
serious are there people that watch that crap?
just like the cartoon programs when i was younger you had looney toons,tom and jerry,dragonball z,ed edd eddy,johnny bravo,dexters lab,the flintstones,the jetsons and so on.and now you have the life of zack and cody,hannah montana,and whatever else there is on..

i just think they put less and less energy to think of some good tv shows now they just milk everything out.they are like wow we had so many vieuwers lets make another serie and 3months later there is another crappy show on tv..
and also those brainless people who think they get famous and happy if they win a show?
and if they dont win it isn't fair they say.



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